Saturday – January 10th, 2015
It has been quiet a while since I’ve written. Life’s many distractions got in the way. (Oh do I have a lot to write about that! Next post maybe?) For now, I find myself searching. I am on a day-to-day search for normalcy, with a little bit of routine mixed in there. For example, I’m writing my draft of this post on the Pages app on my iPhone. I never wrote on my iPhone before. I would always begin writing on my office PC during my lunch breaks at work. I would also write and edit from my laptop at home. Yet, here I am… On the go, and my neeeeeed to write has me clicking (tapping?) away on my iPhone.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not complaining about my life one bit! I’m just trying to adjust to allllll of the changes that have happened in a relatively short amount of time. This time last year I started going in a bit of an emotional downward spiral. I was engaged, trying to figure out how to manage some personal relationships gone sour, still living at home, trying to get pre-approved for a mortgage, adjusting to a new position at work (with a lot more responsibility), planning an engagement party, stressing about my weight, just getting past my sister’s wedding (that I planned in 2 weeks), and just trying to keep my stress level below “total meltdown” level.
Even with a lot on my plate, my days had somewhat of a routine to them. My Monday – Friday didn’t vary much. Being that I still lived at home with my family, my household responsibilities were extremely reasonable (as they were shared among other adults in the house). My weekends were for accomplishing things on my to-do list… For the most part, I didn’t constantly feel like I had no control of my day-to-day. (((Hold on, meeting up with someone to sell them the river rocks I used at my wedding.)))
Monday – January 12th, 2015
TWO DAYS. It took me TWO DAYS to get back to this. UGH. Anywho.
Going from living at home with my family and being engaged, and then finding my first place with my new husband, and getting married, all within about 45 days was a DOOZY. The adjustment period was virtually non-existent, since we spent those 45 days trying to make our rental livable (we had NOTHING. NO furniture, but tons of great kitchen stuff!). We also were scrambling to finish those last-minute wedding details and errands.
I immediately took on the roll of inventory manager. What do we need from Costco? Is there toilet paper in the house? Do we have anything in the fridge to eat tonight? Yes honey, there is soap under the sink. I wasn’t used to keeping all that information in my head. Then there is grocery shopping, meal planning, and cooking. Those responsibilities were shared at home with my family. Now, those are on me. ONLY because I won’t share those responsibilities. My husband becomes a 5-year-old when I go grocery shopping with him. (Think: Pretending a roll of paper towels is a football and passing/throwing it to me in the middle of the store.) Also, his definition of “cooking” is making a bowl of cereal or a grilled cheese. Thankfully, he has taken over BBQ grilling duties!
What has made being the Mrs. and living with my husband WORK is that although I may own some of the responsibilities, he’s all about doing his part too. This man CLEANS. Let me be more specific. He cleans without me asking him to clean! Blows. My. Mind. For that I am eternally grateful. I am not a fan of cleaning, but I WAS raised to have pride in my home and to keep it tidy and presentable. He helps to keep our home neat and clean. Are we perfect at all times? Nope! But I love sharing a home with him.
Yet, cooking, cleaning, running errands, and spending time together was all erratic! I could barely plan ANYTHING. We moved the beginning of October, got married the beginning of November, came back from our honeymoon to the holiday crunch. Now, after the New Year (YAY for 2015!), we are ready to settle into some steady routines. Nothing that won’t allow us to be spontaneous… But something that will give us the ability to ENJOY our home and ENJOY our new marriage!
Happy 2015 everyone! Let’s make it an amazing year!