Just Stop… and Think…

What happens when you try to make a computer or phone do too many things at once? It freezes. It slows to an abysmally slow pace. It doesn’t function to its’ maximum potential. Errors occur.

The same can result in the overload we all currently have on our minds. We suffer from brain overload.

From the moment we open our eyes, our minds immediately go into overdrive. Our days are filled with errands, work, family, meetings, deadlines, schedules, relationships, interactions and technology. We have happy moments and extreme stress. Our bodies respond and we either don’t function at our maximum potential, or we just stop wanting to do anything at all.

As studied by the American Psychological Association (APA):

“When stress starts interfering with your ability to live a normal life for an extended period, it becomes even more dangerous. The longer the stress lasts, the worse it is for both your mind and body. You might feel fatigued, unable to concentrate or irritable for no good reason, for example. But chronic stress causes wear and tear on your body, too.”

Let’s be realistic. In order to achieve big goals and make big dreams come true, we aren’t going to be able to shut out all of the distractions that surround us. We are now part of a generation that experiences text message notifications, news bulletins, phone calls, game requests, email notifications, alarms, reminders, direction instructions, health reminders, bank notifications, and much more… and that is just from the small device in the palm of our hands.

The APA has a list of recommendations to help reduce the stress and overload. One recommendation is to give your mind a rest! With having so much on our minds, we tend to not truly rest at night. How can we remedy this?

Just stop… And think…

Dedicate some time every week to unplugging from all of the distractions. First, give yourself the space and environment you need for peace. Find a quiet area in your home, visit a tranquil park, or find an intimate coffee shop. Next, make sure you don’t rush yourself. Allow your mind to wander. Have a pad of paper and a pen near you to write down any notes/thoughts you feel are important and do not want to forget. Write down your thoughts and once you are done, you can strategize how you can tackle any issues or problems that are weighing on you. Most importantly, do NOT have any distractions such as a phone or television near you. Fifteen to thirty minutes a week is a great start to help you relieve some of the stress and overload on your mind.

Give this a try this week and let us know if it helped you with some of your brain overload!



Overhyped Situations: Bridesmaids Dress Shopping

There are so many aspects of wedding planning that are stressful – but some of those are just overhyped. They are only stressful if YOU allow them to be stressful.

One thing you have the power to make or not make stressful is bridesmaids dress shopping. Maybe since I am a VERY LOW KEY bride the situation is different for me. My bridesmaids are different heights (ranging between 5’0″ and 5’9″) and have different body shapes. I’m realistic in knowing that there is not ONE dress out there that looks great on very different body types. If I had to search and find ONE dress that looked great on all of my bridesmaids I would stress myself, when honestly, I have too much going on to put that on myself.

My solution: Pick a color and have the bridesmaids pick dresses THEY loved, looked great in, and felt comfortable wearing. Is this a totally new and never done before idea? No. This is a way for me to keep my sanity, take some pressure off of my bridesmaids, and to ENJOY dress shopping.

Yesterday went SO amazingly well, that we were in an out of the bridal salon in an hour. I’m actually enjoying my wedding planning now. In the beginning the stress was crazy. Now, I am trying to make this a positive experience. I spent quality time with some important ladies yesterday… We did a LOT of laughing (I mean a LOT).

I expected some ladies to struggle to find a dress they liked… I expected having to find another location with more dresses to try on… I expected to maybe not find a color that I liked… I expected that a bridesmaid would want to buy a dress I didn’t like… I expected to STRESS bridesmaids dress shopping.

Yesterday was great… Bridesmaids dresses are ordered… I’m thrilled!

I won’t post the dresses my bridesmaids ordered (I’ll save that for the wedding pictures), but I will post a small preview of the color I chose! I’m in love. ❤

NotSo30s - Dress Color